Let them eliminate you.
I picked up this juicy nugget of wisdom from Ramit Sethi, and it’s been as life altering as prime one day shipping for me. I’ve struggled mightily with low self confidence. I had this negative (sometimes vicious) voice in my head telling me that I will fail, I’ll look stupid, and I shouldn’t even try. When new opportunities would come my way, I’d run away and feign disinterest. The truth is… I didn’t think I could rise to the occasion.
One of my biggest regrets in life was that I only applied to one college because I didn’t think I could get accepted anywhere else, despite my high GPA and class rankings. Sometimes I wish I could go back, and give my younger self the advice not to eliminate myself, to let all those colleges do their job.
While it’s not easy to put yourself out there to be rejected, it’s where all the growing happens. Trust me. Learning to put myself out there and reach for things has helped me grow my self confidence by leaps and bounds.
How to apply this in real life:
- Write down what you have to lose by trying, other than a wounded ego.
- Write down what you’re losing by not trying
- If you’re really afraid, it’s a sign you need to try!
- Anytime you are tempted to give up, remember, it’s not your job!
- It’s your job to go for it 100%
- Applied at a top private school, even though I was sure we wouldn’t get in. We weren’t rich! We got in!
- Applied for a job that I was sure I wasn’t going to get. I totally got it!
- Applied for a contest at brit.co that I didn’t think I’d hear back from. I was one of 10 finalists!
- Applied for a design thinking workshop at Stanford’s d.school that I was convinced I’d never be selected for. I was! It was amazing!
Don't do their job for them. Let them reject you.